feat(discord): add thread_require_mention for multi-bot threads

By default, once Hermes participates in a Discord thread (auto-created on
@mention or replied in once) it auto-responds to every subsequent message
in that thread without requiring further @mentions. That's the right default
for one-on-one conversations and isolated channel threads.

But it's a confirmed footgun in multi-bot threads. When a user invokes one
bot per turn — addressing Codex first, then Hermes — every other bot in the
thread also fires on every message, burning credits and spamming the channel.
Author has hit this personally in active multi-bot research-team threads.

Add a new `discord.thread_require_mention` config key (env:
`DISCORD_THREAD_REQUIRE_MENTION`), default `false` to preserve existing
behavior. When `true`, the in-thread mention shortcut is disabled and
threads are gated the same way channels are. Explicit @mentions still pass
through as expected.

Mirrors the existing helper shape (config.extra > env > default) and the
existing yaml→env bridge pattern used by `require_mention`.

Changes:

- gateway/platforms/discord.py: new `_discord_thread_require_mention()`
  helper; in_bot_thread shortcut now AND's with `not _discord_thread_require_mention()`
- gateway/config.py: bridge `discord.thread_require_mention` from config.yaml
  to `DISCORD_THREAD_REQUIRE_MENTION` env var (mirrors the existing
  `require_mention` bridge two lines above)
- hermes_cli/config.py: add `thread_require_mention: False` default to
  DEFAULT_CONFIG['discord']
- tests/gateway/test_discord_free_response.py: 4 new tests covering default
  behaviour (in-thread shortcut still works), enabled behaviour (mention
  required in threads), enabled+mentioned (mention still passes through),
  and yaml-via-config.extra path. Also clears DISCORD_* env vars in the
  `adapter` fixture so process-env state from the contributor's shell
  doesn't leak into per-test behaviour.
- tests/gateway/test_config.py: 2 new tests covering the yaml→env bridge
  (both the apply-from-yaml and env-precedence-over-yaml paths)
- website/docs/user-guide/messaging/discord.md: document the new env var
  + config key with multi-bot rationale; cross-link from `auto_thread`
  section

Tested on Ubuntu 24.04.

gateway/config.py

@@ -908,6 +908,8 @@ def load_gateway_config() -> GatewayConfig:
             if isinstance(discord_cfg, dict):
                 if "require_mention" in discord_cfg and not os.getenv("DISCORD_REQUIRE_MENTION"):
                     os.environ["DISCORD_REQUIRE_MENTION"] = str(discord_cfg["require_mention"]).lower()
+                if "thread_require_mention" in discord_cfg and not os.getenv("DISCORD_THREAD_REQUIRE_MENTION"):
+                    os.environ["DISCORD_THREAD_REQUIRE_MENTION"] = str(discord_cfg["thread_require_mention"]).lower()
                 frc = discord_cfg.get("free_response_channels")
                 if frc is not None and not os.getenv("DISCORD_FREE_RESPONSE_CHANNELS"):
                     if isinstance(frc, list):